Libido Events - Coaching Work
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INTRODUCTION
There really isn't a term for me and what I do.
I'm Jennifer. I'm an activist, sexuality educator and intimacy coach in Vancouver, BC. With many years of both personal and professional experience in sex-positive culture, there is much information I can provide, and which I'm more than willing to share.
WHAT CAN I DO FOR YOU?
I can fill any of several roles for you:
1. An Information Source
I can be an information source for many areas of sex-positive culture, including queer and kinky. Some topics people have come to talk with me about include:
- Introduction to sex positive culture: communication and ethics, public SM play, social sexy events, and education opportunities
- Female bi-curiosity, bi-sexuality, and coming out
- Polyamory, multi-partner relationships, group sex, and swinging
- BDSM (Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism) from any perspectives (Top or bottom, Master or submissive)
- Role-playing, fetish, and other kinky sex
- Sexual Self Esteem and Body Image
- Single and Dating
2. A Listener or Sounding Board
You may just want someone with whom you can share your concerns or to whom you can tell your desires. Have you a long-existing interest that you're trying to wrestle into a more comfortable position in your life? Have you questions about a new interest? I'm a safe person for this.
3. A Guide
Some people want to know how to bring a little kink into their bedrooms without having to attend public workshops, seminars, or parties; in other words, without having to leave the privacy of their own home.
A growing number of individuals and couples consult me before they start exploring their city's sex-positive communities. I help them understand what to expect and how to best prepare themselves for a positive experience.
4. An Educator
Through my company, Libido Events , I teach sex education classes, host educational, social, and play-based adult events, and promote other events celebrating alternative sexuality. You can review the list of classes & the Erotic Arts Curriculum on my website. The calendar on the front page may have a few new workshops that have not yet made there way over to my Erotic Arts Curriculum yet.
5. A Private Tutor
Any of the classes that I teach publicly I teach also as private instruction. You can hire me for a custom lesson for an individual (not necessarily yourself), a small group of friends or family, a school program, a professional association, a stagette, a party, a trade show, or other group or setting.
Particularly as a private tutor, I am certainly not limited to the workshops on the Erotic Arts Curriculum , though the classes listed represent those that are among the most frequently requested. Not everyone wants to learn in a large group, or with strangers. The smaller and more private the group, the more we can tailor the lesson to your needs, or even improvise, instead of sticking to the curriculum.
6. A Coach
You may already know what your kink is or have tried something out or might already be familiar and comfortable with doing it. Very likely, I can tell you about how to take it further, describe variations that other people do, or suggest other similar or related activities that you might also enjoy.
In other words, I teach you how to improve your game.
7. An Advocate
Sex-positive culture exists within a larger society that is still heavily sex-negative. If you have a political bent and have an interest in activism, in changing laws or changing societal attitudes towards sex and related issues (censorship, privacy, discrimination), we have something in common. I can tell of history, of laws, of ongoing matters, and more what is your interest?
WHERE AND HOW?
The where and how depends on the type of consultation you want to hire me for (and the role I will be filling for that time). Some examples:
- Discussion only (information source, listener, guide, advocate) can meet in public place, but can be private on request
- Class (educator, private tutor) has curriculum, must be held in studio or other private place only
- Coaching (private tutor, coach) more free-form, usually requires privacy as well
For appointments I meet individuals in my very comfortable office space, Libido Lounge.
WHAT DO I DO ONCE WE MEET?
We sit down and get comfortable, then we talk. I'm tolerant, open-minded, and able to initiate and gently guide a conversation that you may believe will be difficult to begin. Whatever your interests, know that you won't be shocking or alarming to me. I know so many diverse people doing so many amazing things with their lives and sexuality that the probability of you causing me distress is small. Anything you tell me will be confidential.
Once I know what you are seeking, I will let you know if and where it exists in our province. Otherwise, I'll provide suggestions on what the best places are for you to find something to meet your needs, to titillate or educate you.
HOW TO BOOK AN APPOINTMENT: THE DETAILS
- Rate: $125 per hour, a minimum of two hours for discussion style appointments
- $150 - $250 per hour for interactive appointments, a minimum of two hours
Two hours is usually a sufficient time for a consultation. This is the standard period and will be assumed to be the time being booked if you don't specify a duration.
If you would like a third hour or more, often useful when I'm working with couples; please let me know at the time you make the booking. Otherwise, I will assume the minimum and typical two hours.
Payment in full, in advance, is what secures your appointment time.
- Payment method: Paid in advance, in full. Contact for payment info: jennifer@libidoevents.com
- Appointment hours: 9:00 am to 5:00 pm, Monday - Friday, subject to availability.
I'm fairly flexible, but any appointments have to fit in between my other personal and professional responsibilities. Please refer to my event schedule to see when I'm already committed to classes. Contact me as early as possible (at least one week's advance notice preferred) to increase the chance of finding a time that's good for both of us and for your deposit payment to arrive to me.
- What I need from you:
- One week's advance notice
This is the bare minimum. It will give both you and me a much better chance of setting a mutually agreeable time to meet.
- A short description of what you'd like to discuss or learn about.
This way, I can do my homework beforehand and be well prepared with the most up-to-date information that is relevant to you.
Personal information about yourself isn't necessary, but can be very helpful to me in preparing for our discussion. Sharing as much about yourself as you're willing to and comfortable with will be appreciated.
- One week's advance notice
- What you'll get from me:
- Privacy
Your privacy is critical and of the highest importance. What you tell me will remain confidential. Only I will ever read your email. I will not share your identity or your specific situation with anyone. Everything you say to me in conversation will not be repeated elsewhere by me. What you share with me goes no further. I understand how important matters of privacy are when dealing with sexuality and share your concern for keeping us all safe.
- Research and resources
Based on what you want to discuss, I will research the topic and have the most up-to-date information at hand when we meet. I am familiar with sex-positive groups or organizations running throughout the province and know of countless information resources. If I cannot help directly, there should be someone not too far away who can encourage you along your path of exploration.
- Follow-up
You get more than just a two-hour meeting. After a consultation, I may email you some notes of our conversation, including any resources I mentioned. This will serve as a written record of our discussion and a list of avenues to explore further.
- Privacy
- Contact method: Email me at jennifer@libidoevents.com
ABOUT ME, JENNIFER
I'm an activist for sex-positive culture in Vancouver, BC, an educator and promoter of alternative sex education. Through my company, Libido Events , I teach sex education classes, host educational, social, and play-based adult events, and promote other events celebrating alternative sexuality.
For over twelve years, I've been an active, out, vibrant part of Vancouver's sex positive culture. I play at public fetish and dungeon events and enjoy a variety of sexy activities. Some of these you might see at events; some you can only read about in my blog, activist on a mission to initiate change .
It is my sincere pleasure to help make your entry to Vancouver's sex positive communities both a smooth and safe one. It's what I do and I'm really good at it.